Moments Fade Away!

Moments fade away with time,
when you can't find the words that rhyme.
What is then left behind,
only footprints on the sand of time!


My heart still wanders ,
in the quest of the unattainable state of delirium
in search of those nights of star-gazing,
of those gentle meanderings.


My heart still wanders,
in search of that time,
when there was no dearth of time,
the precious time,which I lost in self-search.


When I look back years later,
when my hair have turned salt and pepper,
all the memories have faded away
in the fog of expeditious life!


And I find myself,
standing at one end of the shore,
where I am left with nothing,
But, "FOOTPRINTS ON THE SAND OF TIME"


I dread the day when,
the footprints will be washed away,
by the gushing waves of the sea,
But, I'll still be standing there,
waiting for more to come...


The memories created in my mind,
Will stand the test of time, 
Moments fade away with time,
when you cant find the words that rhyme....

MEN are chauvinist PIGS, Women are feminist Bitches!

What did you expect to read when you saw the title? I hope at least not that I would speak for the "EQUALITY OF THE SEXES". A very few women would actually do that, i.e. talk about equality when they are writing about patriarchy and feminism. 

Ours has always been a patriarchal society. While "FEMALE" is a matter of biology, "FEMINITY" is what is expected of a woman, and "FEMINIST" is a woman's political position. Being feminists, women struggle against the patriarchal order, the sexism in the society which elevates men to the positions of power and degrades women to the position of subjugation. Anyone who holds a view that women suffer due to discriminations based on their sex and gender, and protest against them is a feminist. There can be no looking back from the fact that women have been considered inferior since times immemorial. They are the disadvantaged group. Feminists are of two kinds,"The Activists" and "The Theorists". You will find more of the latter kind, almost everywhere. It doesn't take much to speak a few words or so. 

But while taking a feminist stand, one thing is mandatory. MEN have to be demeaned in the process! Or else there is no use. Actually, feminism is often used by women to purposely degrade men. By hook or by crook!!! Yep. Feminism started as a socio-political movement, but took the other way round. It renders women the power to degrade men to the position of,, errr "Chauvinist Pigs". Yeah! Thats what they are. Nobody cares to fight for the equality of men-women rights when the "Battle of the SEXES" is on! Its just headed towards making the other sex bite the dust.

According to men,women are dumb-wits, belong in the kitchen, God's most beautiful yet worst creation,they claim that they can never understand women. So, Women have to return "the favor" by calling Men ruthless brutes, insensitive, worse than dogs, etc. etc. The arguments go on..and takes many in its influence. We all love our sex,no? Well, most of us do. So we join in the cat fight. We love each other but still pretend to hate? Friendly "MEN AND WOMEN" become foes under the influence of "CHAUVINISTS AND FEMINISTS" 

When men talk of their rights, they are called chauvinists, when women talk of their rights, they are called feminists. Both have their own stands in their lives. Real feminists take a back stage while the battle of the sexes continues. The argument continues........

Confessions of a Shopaholic!

If you find this blog a bit exaggerating,you have no right to be called a shopaholic or to read it. Being a woman, you are bound to have that passion for shopping. Life isn't worth living if you have enough money but you lack the *zest* to spend it. A MISER might never ever realize how it feels to be a spendthrift! Being a punjabi, I have an inborn knack for spending. Being endowed with enough money and a flair for shopping, I can proudly acclaim myself to be a shopaholic! 

My BEST buys ever have to be my thousands of pairs of earrings, hundreds of pairs of footwear, a 500 something bags, dozens of lip palettes, fragrances, and so on. They are right now,"Reader's envy, Owner cum blogger's pride" ;)

Who exactly is a shopaholic? I guess I am one because whenever I spend, I get a weird satisfaction. "I walk Gucci, I speak D&G, I talk Versace". Okay, a lil bit of flaunting there. But that doesn't make me any less of a freak! A shopaholic is a creature who has shopping as his/her favorite pastime. SALE period is his/her favorite season?! Fuck spring when Sale season is on. Actually, a shopaholic is a "compulsive shopper" who shops beyond his limits, shops for things he has no need for, on an impulse, and uses shopping as a way of making him/herself feel better. In some cases, it may be an OCD or an addiction! Researches have shown that such people get a momentary uplift in their mood through it. But the pleasure is short-lived, as in any other similar task and the shopper has to go out again, roam, shop more and spend more to get that boost in hormones which make them happy! In other words, *prowl* in malls, in marketplaces, whatever! It gives them a "HIGH". YES. Okay, this is weirder," Once a shopper begins to ruin his own life by spending, his/her spendthrift ways may mess up with relationships too. In extreme cases, it may even lead to the person take credit to fulfill his/her wants! It may become an addiction just like any other addiction."

Pheww...that was scary!! I am not a *SHOPAHOLIC* in the true sense of the word. Thank God for that! It might take a few more lacs to reach that phase! Too many exclamations! Yes, I fear I may reach that phase someday. Bwahahaha ! I read it somewhere," To rid oneself of this chemical imbalance, one may even need to take anti-depressants to curb that urge to shop. 

I am still proud of being a shopaholic because I am still at the initial phase of the addiction. I enjoy every moment of it! Its recommended. If you have enough money "SPEND IT" . Its FUN! #ConfessionsofAShopaholic

Proud to be *SELFISH*

O dear! I've always wanted to write a blog.This one being my first attempt ever, kindly spare the shortcomings.The topic I chose,i.e,"Selfishness in Human Nature" has always been of keen interest to me.My ideology is not based on any books on Human Psychology or behaviourism.It is based solely on my own personal experiences which shuddered me, time and again.

We claim to love people selflessly.We claim to love them more than we love our own selves. But,its just a disbelief. That we want ourselves to believe. A human Being is not capable of loving another if he doesnt get any favor in return.Within evolutionary psychology all human traits ultimately benefit selfish genes. In economics, it is axiomatic that humans are rational pursuers of self-interest.Self-Interest is the priority.All else is subsidiary.


I want to share some of my personal experiences which eventually led me into writing this. I am sure that you may have experienced likewise at some point of life or the other. Well,most of you!


A few years back,i went for a trip abroad.All was going well,till one day,when one of my dear ones jumped into the pool to show me off his swimming skills. While swimming,as he reached halfway,he began to drown.It was a pathetic sight,Indeed. I could not help him coz I didn't know how to swim.Another one of my family member jumped into the pool for his rescue.We were relieved! But the sight became all the more complicated when She herself began to drown.It was a shock! This was the time when I realized that self-defense mechanisms work in such a way so as to bring out the selfishness in Human Being in full bloom. She pushed upon him in order to save herself from being drowned! Its not that she consciously wanted to save herself at the cost of his life.This made me realize that in the self-defense mechanism, human beings express unconscious ,unwanted,impulses or desires which may sometimes not be recognized by the conscious mind.It was a miserable and pathetic sight for me. So the "self-defense" mechanism at play at that time was self-centered. No matter how much we love our family and dear ones, "SELF"is the most important. Self-defense is the priority. It is even scientifically proven that when anxiety becomes overwhelming, the defense mechanism employed by the mind and the body  to protect the individual is highly self-centered. Anyways,a spectator came to their rescue and saved them.Thank God for that! A sigh of relief.

Man is a narcissist by nature."I,ME,MYSELF" is what matters the most. We may claim to love our loved ones more than we love ourselves. But I take such statements superficially and at their face value.Whenever someone says,"I love you more than I love myself",I judge him. Well,I love myself the MOST,and when i say this,I am being honest. 

Another incident which I remember which strengthened my viewpoint was when my Mom was hospitalized recently. She had undergone a major operation. She could not help herself to the washroom far a few days. I was supposed to help her for the same. The irony of life is that our parents sacrifice a lifetime in nurturing us. They struggle,strive the whole life through to give us the best upbringing. But when its our time to return the favor,to help them through in their old age,in their trying times,we hesitate. We may or may nor do it,but it's never at will.Its forced in most of the cases. I was supposed to help her through the daily basic necessities. I exposed myself to the *selfish* me when I became hesitant to do so.This was the  woman who cleaned my shit all through my life,without a fine line on her forehead.But when it was actually my turn to help her through her trying times,I was doubtful.I began to despise myself and realized how selfish I could be. 

The selfishness pervades not only the human sphere.We love GOD because we expect something or the other in return.